What is the importance of building a healthy, sexual relationship with yourself?
Today I want to talk to you about the importance of building a healthy, sexual relationship with yourself. Masturbation, whacking off, self-exploration or self-love, it doesn’t really matter what you call it as long as you feel empowered to have it in your life. Let’s talk about how many people have been taught to feel ashamed to touch themselves, or taught there is something wrong or dirty or bad about masturbation. If that is something you have experienced, I want you to know it is not true! It is healthy, natural and a super important part of everyone’s sexual development and sexual wellness. If you are having a strong reaction to that statement, I lovingly invite you to reach out and contact someone for support because you don’t deserve to feel ashamed, dirty or bad.
People often think of masturbation as something you do if you are not getting sex on a regular basis. They think of it as a pale replacement for REAL sex. I am here to say,if you are not masturbating, you are missing out on the gift of having a hot, wild sex life with yourself. Everyone deserves to be having that epic pleasure.
For many people it’s within the safety of masturbation and self-love that they:
Figure out what turns them on
Find the ways their body craves to be touched
Discover how to surrender completely to pleasure without fear or shame
Experience first orgasms and orgasmic patterns
See their sexual development grow,expand and evolve
Even when you are part of a great sexual relationship with someone, it is important to make time to build your sex relationship with yourself. It is in these self-loving moments that self-discovery can happen without fear, judgement or pressure. The great thing about self-discovery is that you can now share it in your relationship, which adds extra spice and intimacy, bringing you and your partner closer together.
For many couples, masturbation is the source of a lot fights and hurt because of shame, blame, and low self-esteem. This can be a very charged topic for many couples, so I promise I will write a follow-up article focusing on the effects masturbation has on relationships.
Until I write that article I want to give you two things to think about:
I want you to start to see masturbation as important for you and your partner to do, and not as replacement for sexual closeness but to build your sexual pleasure possibilities.
Start sharing and telling one another about your masturbation sessions so you are not hiding or feeling bad about it.
In the meantime, you might want to come take my Self Study Course Called “ Sexual Wellness Upgrade” or contact me for support if you are struggling with feeling safe and happy with masturbation within your relationship.