Ep.42-Chapter 16 : What do I need to know before we fu*k “ Becoming a better lover series”





Limited - Ep.42-Chapter 16 : What do I need to know before we fu*k “ Becoming a better lover series” on My Orgasmic Life Podcast with Holistic Sexual Wellness Specialist , Gaia Morrissette


So many of my clients, friends and student are always asking me “ How do I become a better lover” Or “How can I be better in bed” so I have been inspired to create series dedicated to being better at sex… Content Warning : Swearing, Talking about Sex, Laughter, Getting Laid, Sexual Arousal, honest questions about sexual compatiablity


Covering in this Chapter:

*Recap of the 2 before sex conversations

* 1st conversation : Getting to know you and see if I want to have sex with you

* 2nd conversation: Just before we get naked and fu*k

*Before sex set up

* Checklist of questions for both conversations and what you need…. can be found at the bottom of the show notes also link to a google doc for you to download


Seat back and get ready for a wild ride…


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Getting to Know You Sex Checklist : https://docs.google.com/document/d/1jYli0RWJjm-W-KcMGZ_ngg6Dvl_1hpg7OYpUfZ8ULeA/edit?usp=sharing

  1. Do you like sex?

  2. When I say sex what does that mean to you?

  3. What is your favourite things about a sexual experience?

  4. Do you masturbate? If so how often?

  5. What is the wildest sexual thing you have ever done? What is the wildest sexual thing you want to do?

  6. Do you have any kinks or fetishes?

  7. What are you turns on and turn offs?

  8. What your grooming turn ons and turn off?

  9. What words turn you on and turn you off?

  10. What would you like me to call your genitals?

  11. What do you like to do after sexual experience?

  12. What are your safe sex practices?

  13. Have you ever been tested ? If So when was the last time?

  14. Do you have any sti/std?

  15. Do you have any physical or emotional injuries that I need to know?

  16. How vocal are you during sex?

  17. Do you have orgasms/ejaculate? If so is there certain positions or acts that support you cumming

  18. Ejaculation what do we want to do with it?

  19. What does sex mean to you emotional?

  20. What is a great sex experience look like for you?

If you are looking for a long term sexual partner :

  1. How important is sex to you in a relationship?

  2. What is your sex drive like: low, medium, high . If you could have as much sex as you wanted how often?




Just before we get naked checklist : https://docs.google.com/document/d/1xTlXcHErTcHhzcRkPVsOGhAcl8WwHLAiB9v51GnTMiA/edit?usp=sharing

  • How is your body feeling today? Anything I need to be aware of ?

  • What kind of sexy time are you craving today? Soft, slow and sensual or hard, raw and rough. Or is there certain sexual acts or games or kinks you want to explore ? Or is it going to be a quickie or exploration

Before sex set up

  • Everyone is groomed

  • Make sure all the lotions, lube, gloves, condoms, toys, water and any other props you might need

  • Turn all your tech off

  • If it a new lover it can be helpful to do show and tell… Look it up on Chapter 15 . This will help your lover to learn how your body loves to be touched.

  • Have fun and explore all the pleasure possibilities!



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